Online Dating: Ending Your Virtual Relationship: 8 Week Program (On(the)Line Book 1)
by Anamika Fidehr
An online relationship/virtual relationship can be immensely stressful to be in, and even more distressing to move on from.
Plus, a range of websites, and everyone around you tells you that a virtual relationship/online-relationship is not even REAL.
Now, this book is primarily about processing, and moving on from an online relationship. But firstly, it reassures you that no, you did not IMAGINE the relationship. Time and again, I have noticed that one of the harder emotions any person feels is that of being ‘bewildered’ at being so hurt, by something everyone around them is characterizing as ‘not real’. This book starts by assuring you that yes, online relationships are quite real. But, they differ from ‘real’ relationships in a few striking ways – which serves as the root cause for much confusion. How one copes with, and learns from these differences, influences how quickly, and how effectively one bounces back from an online relationship.
This book contains information which will come in useful as you process the end of your virtual relationship in the first four weeks, and the second four weeks. It will guide three types of readers through reflecting and strategizing how to approach the difficult eight week period after the end of a relationship:
This book is especially useful if you are
(ii)someone who has a nagging feeling that although there has been an upheaval in the virtual relationship, the connection is not conclusively ‘over’, and wants to prepare themselves for the next round, since virtual relationships have a propensity of turning out to be on-again, off-again;
(iii)someone who is devastated at how the virtual relationship ended, who lost hope in relationships. For the third category, the book suggests that they focus their energies on self-improvement, and on ‘winning the relationship’ – the book focuses on increasing your self-awareness through a range of quizzes and tests, so that you can ‘win the relationship’ in the real sense, and focus on not only improving your relational health, but also improve the relationships that you will build in the future.
“Yes, it was real: But, move on anyway!”, in the On(the)line series of books on virtual relationships, believes that the solution to processing the end of a virtual relationship is to scrutinize, and in some cases, alter how we relate to technology, and how we relate to the people in our lives through technology.
Part A: Understanding and accepting the end of a virtual relationship
CHAPTER I THE VIRTUAL/ONLINE RELATIONSHIP IS REAL, BUT NOT ALWAYS HEALTHY
CHAPTER II YES, IT’S OVER –COPING WITH THE END OF A VIRTUAL RELATIONSHIP
CHAPTER III: A BASIC UNDERSTANDING OF VIRTUAL RELATIONSHIPS
Part B: The first one month
CHAPTER IV: GETTING UP AND DUSTING OFF THE REMNANTS OF THE VIRTUAL RELATIONSHIP
CHAPTER V: 4 WEEK PLAN FOR MOVING ON
Part C: The second month
CHAPTER VI YOUR VIRTUAL RELATIONSHIP LEGACY
CHAPTER VII UNDERSTAND WHY YOU ENTERED AND STAYED IN THIS VIRTUAL RELATIONSHIP
CHAPTER VIII THE CYCLICAL VIRTUAL RELATIONSHIP
Part D: Enhancing Relational Health
CHAPTER IX IMPROVING HOW YOU RELATE WITH INTIMATE-OTHERS IN RELATIONSHIPS
CHAPTER X: FIVE INSIGHTS FROM YOUR PREVIOUS RELATIONSHIP