If you are thinking about ending a relationship, you may also be wondering what you can do afterward to get over the whole thing. Even if you are the one who instigates the break up you will still need some time to grieve the loss of the relationship. Feelings of anger, hurt and most of all resentment are all still possible.
It is times like these that it is important to figure out what not to do as well as what to do. Do not rely on other people to tell you what to do. They may be able to give you some advice about how they handled a similar situation but understand that everyone’s situation is unique and there are no hard and fast rules that fit every one. But, there are some things you should not do when ending a relationship.
Do not jump right back into a relationship, any relationship. Take some time and just be by yourself. Get some perspective on the situation and your life. Do something for yourself that you have put off for a while. Just pay attention to you for now. The hurt will fade with time as long as you take the time to let it.
Guilt may set in after a while and you may think that the only way to unfeel the guilt is to drink until you are numb. This is one of the destructive behaviors that you need to avoid. The only thing you will get from going out and getting wasted is a great big hangover. Who needs that? There are better ways to deal with your feelings of guilt over the break up.
Talk to people who care about you. Not to have them tell you what to do but sometimes just getting the feelings out is sometimes the best thing you can do to be able to deal with them. Having someone around to listen while you bare your soul can be a very uplifting experience. Once the feelings are out there and dealt with you will be surprised at how much better you will feel and staying positive about your future will be a lot easier for you.
Make a pact with yourself to avoid any and all destructive behaviors in your time of healing and maybe even do a little work on yourself in the process. Lose some weight and get in shape or further your education by taking a class at your local community college. Just as long as whatever it is you choose is healthy then it does not matter what it is exactly, just go do.
Moving forward is what is most important after ending a relationship. Try not to get stuck in a rut. You may only succeed in making bad choices. Concentrate on making good choices and keep your mind off your ex. Be very proud of yourself that you have taken the biggest positive step, not to mention any improvements you make, to healing your broken heart.